A Hesitant Step Into…
This is one of my first pages on improving spiritually, while I am not comfortable talking to friends or family about spirituality, I believe for a couple of reasons I need to share valuable insights and truths to help us all evolve. My little part, if you will.
I am not a person to preach in public and I am severely selectively guarded in this, only talking to two cherished people in my life about spirituality. But this is a passive voice, as anybody can just click off to another page if they choose to do so. I don’t believe in telling people what to think unless specifically asked.
I am really am uncomfortable even writing this, but wish to share for the benefit of all life.
I also would like to state this is not my ideas but are lessons I have learned and continue to learn. By reading, by watching, and by experience.
If just one person finds benefits, that is a success and totally worth it.
One of the hardest things in life to do is to forgive. We can make a million reasons why we shouldn’t forgive someone, instead of just forgiving them. Right?
But not forgiving someone locks us in the past. Thereby not living in the present. It also locks us in a negative mind frame and keeps us there behind our self-imposed prison.
I was often plagued with surrounding negative thoughts before implementing forgiveness. A shroud of negativity that was continuous. Make no mistake, I still struggle, but less often as I used to, as I learn and push myself to be a better human.
Often times it is easier to forgive someone once they have apologized. Forgiveness can be given more easily when this happens. But often times, for whatever reason, the person is no longer alive, you have lost contact, they don’t even know that they have hurt you, or an unwillingness to apologize. We can counter-step this and offer forgiveness anyways.
My biggest tip for forgiving someone even if you are not fully ready for forgiveness but want to move forward and start to release some of it is to just say it out loud or even in your head. I find saying it out loud more helpful, for me personally.
Example: Ray Smith, I forgive you.
Sounds simple, right? But make no mistake about it, it can be the hardest thing to do. We attach hurt to be of major importance to our life. Sometimes forgiveness is a major roadblock in the path of life.
Say the person name or whatever has hurt you out loud and attach I forgive you. Try to put truth behind it. Repeat as necessary. Until the feelings subside and re-address when it reappears because often times it will. But you can often time release it in batches until complete forgiveness is giving and you feel fine about the situation.
Make steps if you can not forgive, just entertain the idea. If you can’t tackle the large hurt start with lesser damage and build up from there. Progress eventually to the most painful.
I find sometimes I need to say it once or often many times depending on the amount of hurt attached. You don’t even have to say it to the person, just saying it when your alone will release all or some of the negative feelings associated with this person. Weight will be lifted off of your soul.
When do I need to say this? When I feel myself thinking of negatively about this person and re-hashing past hurt.
You will often need to relearn this. That is okay, but continue to offer forgiveness with intention.
Just as important as forgiving someone else, is forgiving yourself. For mistakes, for embarrassing yourself, for hurting others, or for whatever haunts you and brings anything self-deprecating into your life. For me personally, I often think of embarrassing moments in my life and punish myself for these actions by thinking less of myself.
So either say out loud or within your own head. I forgive myself. Repeat as necessary.
What Does Forgiving Yourself/Someone Do To You?
Well, quite a lot.
As the name of the post suggests, removing negative karma from your life. Leaving you to progress spiritually, to gain wisdom and to love more.
As in a book I am reading and learning from currently, The Law Of One in which it states, ” In Forgiveness lies the stoppage of the wheel of karma.”
This allows you to bring a richness of life, which includes happiness, worth, and abundance.
Hope This Helps Someone
I offer simple but often hard solutions that work. They do become easier with time but make no mistake you will slip back and you will need to re-learn these lessons.
I’ve implemented these practices in myself to help myself but also to help others around me.
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